10 Things To Do During Low Moods (Depression)

Depression was something I dealt with in my early stages of my life, obviously I did not know why I felt the way I did at the time. In late 2013 I started reading about it. April 2014 I began applying things into my life, I wanted to up my low moods. I was tired of doing things without meaning,  had no real goals in life anymore, I was involved in a toxic marriage, I kept dropping my classes in school and felt stupid because I could not finish anything I started, I was not consistent with anything in life, I was not good enough in anything I did, always second guessing myself and asking others if I was good enough (which usually meant I was not). I was lost mentally and physically, I was not taking care of myself, I was overweight.  “if your girl is playing with your boobs,  it means you are too fat”.  I was sick on a weekly basis and in bad health (high blood pressure at 23). Always home and never went out because I was embarrassed of myself. Still, I was doing nothing about it. Instead I would stay inside playing video games and yelling at little kids over my mic, I was doing your typical 20 sum year old new age American Teen gaming session, but on a extreme level.

After a few changes in my life, I have lost weight, feeling healthy. Totally a different person in every way. The way I approach people has changed, body posture is different and best part of all I feel confident about myself. Of course, who doesn’t encounter negativity at times, learning to brush it off comes with practice. It took a while to get back on my feet, it will for you as well,  constantly working on myself and I know you can too. In the long run, it is worth it. Here is a list of stuff to do if you need help with battling depression. I am sure it will be useful for others dealing with similar issues.

Ten Things That Help With Depression (AND WORKED FOR ME)

  • Listen to positive things online:

    • Music, motivational speakers and self-improvement podcast/ audio books. Do not forget to write things down, take notes and apply them to your life.

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  • Watch something positive:

    •  Watching documentaries based on great events. Something on succeeding greatness and overcoming adversity will help you relate. Having great examples will keep you pushing. YouTube videos on motivational speakers,try keeping it positive. Especially for us with depressive moods. Our world is a heavy and dark place at times, yet we have many parts of our world making it shine and lively. Keep it in mind when you see negative or harsh information. Love this Channel!

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10 Things To Do During Low Moods (Depression)

Depression was something I dealt with in my early stages of my life, obviously I did not know why I felt the way I did at the time. Not, until late 2013 I started reading about it and researching. April 2014 I began applying things into my life, I wanted to up my low moods. I was tired of doing things without meaning,  had no real goals in life anymore, I was involved in a toxic marriage, I kept dropping my classes in school and felt stupid because I could not finish anything I started, I was not consistent with anything in life, I was not good enough in anything I did, always second guessing myself and asking others if I was good enough (which usually meant I was not). I was lost mentally and physically, I was not taking care of myself, I was overweight.  “if your girl is playing with your boobs,  it means you are too fat”.  I was sick on a weekly basis and in bad health (high blood pressure at 23). Always home and never went out because I was embarrassed of myself. Still, I was doing nothing about it. Instead I would stay inside playing video games and yelling at little kids over my mic, I was doing your typical 20 sum year old new age American Teen gaming session, but on a extreme level.

After a few changes in my life, I have lost weight, feeling healthy. Totally a different person in every way. The way I approach people has changed, body posture is different and best part of all I feel confident about myself. Of course, who doesn’t encounter negativity at times, learning to brush it off comes with practice. It took a while to get back on my feet, it will for you as well,  constantly working on myself and I know you can too. In the long run, it is worth it. Here is a list of stuff to do if you need help with battling depression. I am sure it will be useful for others dealing with similar issues.

Ten Things That Help With Depression (AND WORKED FOR ME)

  • Listen to positive things online:

    • Music, motivational speakers and self-improvement podcast/ audio books. Do not forget to write things down, take notes and apply them to your life.

positive-language-possible-able

  • Watch something positive:

    •  Watching documentaries based on great events. Something on succeeding greatness and overcoming adversity will help you relate. Having great examples will keep you pushing. YouTube videos on motivational speakers,try keeping it positive. Especially for us with depressive moods. Our world is a heavy and dark place at times, yet we have many parts of our world making it shine and lively. Keep it in mind when you see negative or harsh information. Love this Channel!

 

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Clothing and Big Frames

I get asked this question frequently by many of my friends and clients, “I wish I can dress more like you, but i’m fat” “I love your style, you can pull it of because you are confident” “You work out that is why it looks good on you”.

My reply is always different depending on the person asking. But, usually leads with me telling them my story, I was 245 pounds 5’8  and I would dress in old baggy clothing, the same style I had in high school, I was over 20 years old dressing like a 16 year old. I wanted to make a change, but I never took that step…… due to being scared of change and what people would say. Of course I eventually I ended up making up my mind and bit the bullet. Of course change did not happen over night, it takes time just like everything else does in this life, unless you have fiber (internet), then your internet feels like it is on adrenaline…… Just so fast!

My focus today, is to help people make a change in their appearance (if you are looking for it)  and showing them how important it is to match your clothing to body style. Trust me, once you get it down it starts to become fun.

Big Sized Frame

A lot of bigger men have a hard time choosing what to wear many feel nothing will look good on them. So they just give up on appearance. Issue here is it makes them look very lazy when they do not make an effort in choosing the right clothing on top of them being overweight, people start to judge. But why do this, if you are not happy with your look, make the step in changing your style. All you have to do is try.

  • When choosing a shirt, try looking for darker shaded color.

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  • Avoid big patterns and horizontals lines , try making friends with vertical patterns and solid shirts. Avoid anything that is very loud.
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  • Make sure your clothing is not over sized and not too tight (no need for any Zelda (Link) tights) , meet your middle ground, this is when you bring in your tailor and start making adjustments, he/she will be your best friend.
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Tight,
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Regular fit is huge, makes him look a bit bigger, once it is slim fitter (im sure tailored) looks way better.
  • Your posture should always be back straight, chest out and chin up. When it comes down to bigger men many tend to hunch over, a big no no, avoid this as much as possible. At first it may feel weird, you may think you are not confident enough to do this, but it is just like the smiling effect, when you smile and you are having a bad day you actually start to feel happier. Same with having a straight posture, you will start gaining confidence and feel powerful, don’t believe me just try. At times you will forget, but remember to check yourself. (enough music references)

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Here is a video on posture exercises, hope it helps. Enjoy.

 

  • When choosing colors, of course consider your skin tone, but darker shaded colors work well in giving a slimmer effect. Does not mean you should never wear any fun colors, but keep it controlled, something like an accessory

 

  • Hats! Im not talking about baseball hats, any one can wear baseball hats. I did all the time before (to represent my crew at the time).  When you wear this hats, you must feel and be confident and you will be. Do not feel ashamed, people will compliment you and you will feel great! Think about it, you are the only one really doing it.

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  • Bigger accessories, this is what you are going for here, everything you wear should be in proportion to your body size, this way nothing looks off putting.

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  • Jackets are a big mans best friend and I am not talking about hoodies, sweaters or biker jackets! I am talking about blazers, sport jackets or light weight jackets. Always make sure your jackets are tapered.

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  • Trousers should be worn high, this way it rest on your belly instead of under it, avoiding squeezing and bunching out.

 

  • Suspenders can be used to replace your belt, which looks awesome! How many people use them? Not many, but when they are being used it is an eye catcher and conversation starter. But, if you do decide to wear a belt, go with something that is thicker and not to thin.

 

  • And lastly, is actually making an effort to cut down some pounds, not only for looks but for health reasons, your life will change for the better, you will have energy, lower depression and feel good about yourself, confident about you! Even if you are a geek or nerd or just work at a desk all day, doesn’t mean you have to be out of shape. I believe we must be strong physically just as much as our brain. Let us be healthy in mind and body. So, why not join your local fit club or get together with a group of people who are trying to make the same change. Join communities on the internet and get inspired and motivated by others.

Good Luck!

Jump Ropes!

Every single martial arts gym I have been to has used jump ropes during warm ups, I have worked with ropes so much that I have fallen in love with them, making them my primary warm up tools. I look forward to using jump ropes during practice, even if they are a little tough at times, the results and feeling when you are done is totally worth it. Not just for kids, trust me!

When you use jump ropes, you are making movements similar to running and playing DDR at the same time. If you want to make it interesting and make it a bit of a harder work out, you can start using other kinds of mobility’s and angles.

Many kind of striking martial arts such as Karate, Muay Thai and Boxing use ropes to practice foot movement, really helps you get a rhythm going making it easier for you to float around while fighting.  Jump ropes are great for warming up your body and get a sweat going, lets say you are recovering from the day before and you are sore this maybe a good start for your next work out. This will also strengthen your chins calves and arms.

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Best and probably most important is cardio. This is a nice tool if you are thinking about bringing up your heart rate and start burning off some fat. Ill be honest with you guys/ gals the first time you start to use jump ropes it is a little difficult getting a rhythm down and being able to go one minute with out stopping. It is hard for the first few times, but once you get it down, it will be the best work out you ever done when it comes down to cardio. First minute is always the easiest, once you get passed that you must just pace yourself and just keep pushing forward.

Remember to drink a lot of water and watch some videos on how to keep a nice rhythm going, landing on your heel and or flat footed, what the differences are.

STAY FANCY AND NERDY!

Suit Jacket, Blazers, and Sport Jackets

Many people (mostly men) think Blazers, Sports Coats and Suit Jackets are all the same thing. Well, they are not. In this blog post I will explain the difference in a simple and quick guide on Jackets.

Sport Coats   

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The Sport Jacket! Yep, many don’t even know a Sport Jacket is called a Sport Jacket. I know I didn’t for the majority of my life, I would call it “fuzzier suit jackets” until someone (thank the maker) called me on it and corrected me. Continue reading Suit Jacket, Blazers, and Sport Jackets

Working Out With Soda!

So! I started an experiment on Sunday morning. What would happen if I started drinking soda again and how would it change my performance during training.

 

My training at the moment consist of kicking and punching combinations, getting my technique down, while at the same time working on my cardio. In short, it is intense. I am always excited and pumped up once we start to warm up, after the warm up I am 100% ready to go. I know a lot of this is energy comes down to my new diet. ( Veggies, Meat, Water)

So the idea was, Ill drink soda (specifically) instead of drinking water during the day, not excluding water completely of course, I will finish the day with a few cups of water before falling asleep. The next day I will go train and test how I feel during practice. The results….. Not good! ( surprising?) On Monday we have a few sparring sessions, which means I should be pumped, refreshed from the weekend, ready to destroy mentally and physically. So, I thought it would be a good idea to start drinking soda on Sunday. I wanted to consume the same amount I did before I quite, 1 bottle and a can a day.

MONDAY! It has been a while since I drank soda and my body did not welcome it well. Because minutes later I had terrible stomach aches, few hours later I felt lethargic during the rest of my day. When I walked into the Dojo, I still felt exhausted, I start putting on my gear, began walking out onto our mat, still, exhausted. We start to warm up and my body just doesn’t want to move. I am sweater by the way, I make puddles people can drown in. Not this time, I had almost no sweat pouring out of my pores. I was dehydrated D,R,Y. When we started squatting (get them bums bigger)  my head was spinning (dizzy), honestly I felt like puking, it has never happened before. By far my worst experience during training and I have been rocked during practice from a punch thrown to my chin many times, it was a similar or even a worst feeling, all this while consuming soda.

It made me think about what I was doing to my body before I quit consuming this stuff. If my body felt this way in just a couple of days of drinking soda/  sugar and food coloring. What was it doing to my body over two decades of drinking it.  This is where my research starts coming into play. Soda contains toxins terrible for our body and puts it in overdrive trying to filter the beverage we have just consumed. It turns our colon toxic, which may result into many problems later down the line, starting with your intestinal tract. This information about sodas and sugar negatively affecting our bodies have been around since 1940’s. Yet, we tend to ignore it. I don’t blame you, getting thirsty and tired, reaching into your back pack and/ or purse, bring out a dollar and purchase a soda is very easy for us to do. But, think about the health risk, the stress you are putting on your body and how it will affect your life in the future. Sugar consumption is very dangerous if not moderated. Just keep that in mind.

We should try to drink water as much as possible or we can make ourselves some healthy shakes, which I have made a list of. You may Google or YouTube recipes as well, we have many great resources out on the internet and a lot of it is free. Let us not restrict ourselves from being healthy, let us instead take control of what we put into our bodies.

 

Updating Your Closet Vol.1

Many of us want to change our style. Yet, we do not know how to start.

I created a list of  clothing items you must have in your closet. To be clear, do not go out and buy everything listed all at once, it takes time. You will build your closet over time. Remember, try to get out of your comfort zone from time to time.

Click on the pictures to get a bigger image.

Shirts

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Casual Dress Shirts

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Need Help With Different Colors.

 

6x – Yes, I am talking about dress shirts. Get yourself solid colors to begin with your collection, once you are comfortable, start playing around with patterns. Dress shirts, do not always mean dressing up with a tie. Take of the tie and you are still looking fancy and casual at the same time. If your work place has casual Fridays or for some always casual, do not take advantage of it, make sure you still look great even if it is during a casual setting, no flip flops with jeans and Hawaiian shirts. PLEASE!

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  • Make sure choose different colors, do not stick with just one color.
  • First Timer Go For Solid Colors
  • Comfortable, Go For Patterns
  • Your Size
  • Does not have to be expensive
  • Make sure you love it.
  • Do not confuse with casual button downs with formal dress shirts

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Simple Style Mistakes Nerds Should Avoid. Vol 1

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Imagine yourself owning a Ferrari, fast, expensive vehicle, right? However, what if the one you owned was always filthy, nothing in the car worked and the exterior was damaged to….. Not only does it lose value, it will also looks terrible while driving it, I would 100 percent choose a Honda Civic, in good condition over a broken down Ferrari.

Same applies with your clothing, if you own expensive clothing with visible tearing, stains and fading color. Your clothing loses value, as well as killing your style level by 100%! Talk about reducing your score. Sometimes we try to keep clothing as long as we can. This is understandable, but let us keep it to a limit.

FIT IS KEY!

As I mentioned before in my last blog, Geek In Style Guide. I cringe when I see my nerdy friends wearing clothing that doesn’t fit them. When my bigger friends are wearing shirts too small and rising above their bellies is just mean, so let us try to avoid it, especially if you are on the bigger side. Same goes with big clothing, if a bigger sized individual is wearing a huge shirt it, makes them appear 10 lbs heavier, at times even adds 20 lbs. Nothing wrong with taking your time in choosing a perfect size.

Same goes with skinnier individuals, when my smaller friends are wearing big shirts, it only makes it seem as if they are about to go sky diving. Smaller than what they really are, not bigger, smaller! Perfect fit takes times to find. This being said, it is worth every single minute and penny when you do find that, perfect, fit.

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Even Mega Man Grows Out Of His “suit”

 

 

When buying a shirt, try from a small size, then work your way up, once you find one not to wide and not to long in length. Keep in mind, all clothing companies have different views of size and fit. Try using more fitting rooms when shopping, might be the only way to know for sure. More men need to use them fitting rooms! Feels like a ghost town in there. Continue reading Simple Style Mistakes Nerds Should Avoid. Vol 1